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Prop 8 Ban

2010-07-14T11:46:00.000-07:00

California’s Supreme Court has ruled that same sex couple’s marriages occurring before the ban will be able to remain married, but as of now all others are unable to.

Activists are continuing to fight for the rights of all people. This issue stirs up much controversy and will continue. Prop 8 will continue to be a prominent issue for possibly years to come.

Do I need to hire an Orange County divorce attorney?

2010-05-22T16:41:00.000-07:00

If you are unsure if you need a divorce attorney, ask yourself the following before you proceed on our own with the divorce proceedings:

1. Do I comprehend the forms that I need to file in order to proceed without a lawyer?

2. Do we have children?

3. Do we have large assets, pensions, 401(K)s and/or liabilities that need to be separated?

4. Is my spouse going to contest any portions of our divorce that may necessitate Court intervention and guidance?

5. Do I have any doubts about whether I am agreeing to do something that I'm not legally required to do or waiving something that I may be legally entitled to?

If you responded yes to any of the questions above, it is in your best interests to at the very least consult with a family law divorce attorney.

The following are common characteristics of a person who does not need an attorney to assist them in a divorce:

1. The parties have no children or sizeable assets that need to be separated and/or have already divided all of their assets and liabilities;

2. The person comprehends all of the divorce documents and is perfectly capable of filing them out without the assistance of a lawyer;

3. Not in a hurry and have no specific time line that they are looking for to finalize their divorce;

4. The funds that it would take to hire a lawyer is more than the value of the assets or debts the parties are contesting;

5. Alimony or child support is not at concern.

Family Law Attorney Discusses Children and Divorce

2009-07-20T15:18:00.000-07:00

Children have it hard in a divorce. The children think it's their fault or they are confused as to why their parents are angry and breaking up. Therefore it is important to keep them isolated from the negativity that inevitably surrounds a divorce. Dr. Allan Schwartz outlines five mistakes that parents should avoid when dealing with their divorce:

1. Do not use your child as a messenger between you and your ex spouse.

2. Do not use your children as your therapist.

3. Do not criticize your ex spouse to the children.

4. Avoid the "third degree" when the child returns from a visit with their father or mother.

5. Repair the damage you've already done.

Depending on the age of the children, violating these rules could have damaging results for the children. They can become angry at both parents for using them as pawns in their parents' divorce. Especially if the children are older and in their teens. Younger children may feel confused by their parents' interrogations. Many divorce parents reading these tips may recognize mistakes they've unintentionally made with their own kids. Is it ever too late to undo emotional fall-out from a nasty split? Dr Schwartz says no and advises parents to apologize to them because "saying you're sorry" goes a long way with your kids. Explain in detail exactly what you did wrong, and then commit to changing your behavior from that moment on." No two divorce situations are identical and many divorced people experience frustrated and angry feelings of hurt and betrayal. It is common for people to demonize their former spouse and attempt to propagandize the children into their way of thinking. However, this is a short sighted way of thinking that does not take into consideration the emotional well being of the child and future adult.